Ego steps in silently
February 13th, 2010How does self-evaluation on Saturday mornings sound? Like too much work on the weekend?
Well, I woke up this morning to a conversation that led to intense confusion and self-evaluation. Yes, I did say confusion. You see, just because I am on a spiritual path does not mean that I do not have doubts and confusion that pop on my path. A lot of them come up as a reflection of all that I should have learned. A sort of double-check by the universe that it is okay to progress with more learning, sort of what mid-terms and finals are for school kids. That there isn’t the need to go back and re-evaluate and re-learn.
Religion is always a topic that stirs up passions. But I have had my meandering path with and around religion. I have always considered myself a spiritualist. As a young adult though, curiosity set upon me. Some may say I was lost, but I wasn’t. I knew God existed. I knew there were different paths to God. I just didn’t know which one to associate with. So I learned as much as I could at that time. My learning at that time was that fundamentally one path was no different than another. That practices differed; but the core message of each religion was the same. It was, and will be God’s World. So I practice the religion I grew up with, but I also bow to all others.
The conversation this morning was a member of my family sharing what a member of the extended family had shared with them. We’ll call my family member Mr. L, and this extended family member Ms. L. Ms. L had shared with humility and concern that I ought not to practice my religion the way I do; that other religions should be kept out of it. She did not ask that I stop bowing to the other religions. Just that I do that ’separately’. Well, this morning, Mr. L and I got into a discussion around why we couldn’t do that, and why we were doing that in the first place.
It hit me about 20 minutes into the conversation that I needed to apply all, every single one of the ACIM (A Course in Miracles) lessons I had learned till today to this experience. All 13 of them. Before I go on, here are the first 13 ACIM lessons, more for my reference than yours:
- Nothing I see (anywhere) means anything.
- I have given everything I see (anywhere)all the meaning it has for me.
- I do not understand anything I see (anywhere).
- These thoughts do not mean anything. They are like the things I see (anywhere).
- I am never upset for the reason I think.
- I am upset because I see something that is not there.
- I see only the past.
- My mind is preoccupied with past thoughts.
- I see nothing as it is now.
- My thoughts do not mean anything.
- My meaningless thoughts are showing me a meaningless world.
- I am upset because I see a meaningless world.
- A meaningless world engenders fear.
I was a bit upset that someone had suggested I practice my spirituality and religion another way. I felt like I had to defend it a bit even to Mr. L. I even brought up an example where Ms. L had practiced it my way for some period of time. And then, we went on to discuss why we were practicing it this way as if we needed to justify it to ourselves. The question I asked myself at the end of 20 minutes was – Why am I having this conversation?
And it struck me that this situation had come up as a test to see if I could keep the ACIM (A Course in Miracles) lessons at heart and apply them. If I could live them. Obviously I had not done that as first instinct. Old habits are in-grained. It will take time to wear off. But, I am grateful that I was able to think of it another way and think of ACIM. Thank you, God and guides, for that. I don’t think I would have been ready for today’s lesson if I had not done that. Lesson 14 – God did not create a meaningless world. God did not create this meaningless self-doubt and self-justification. My Ego did. I could have heard the comment and let go. I let that comment become a pebble and create rippling waves in me. Ego steps in so silently and quickly. It is hard to even recognize it sometimes. The World is a Mirror. And it is important to be looking in the mirror, and be able to separate Ego.
Perhaps this is a rambling entry. But it is an important one. And I want to capture it more for me, so I can come back and re-read and re-evaluate myself based on where I found myself today.
